Rev. Gary shows how forgiveness is the most powerful tool we have to let go of the past and live fully in the present.
Sunday, May 26, 2019 “Giving Up The Grudge”
Affirmation: “I forgive, and receive the power of forgiveness.”
“Hatred stirs up trouble; love overlooks the wrongs that others do.”
Dr. Frederic Luskin, Stanford Forgiveness Project
Three Things to Know about Forgiveness:
- Forgiveness is for you. It’s not for the offender.
- It’s best to do it now.
- It’s about freeing yourself — forgiving someone doesn’t mean you have to like what they did or become their friend.
“Forgiveness is not silent consent, the negative appearance of making the best of a situation while underneath there is a resentment. Forgiveness is the art of putting something else in place of the thing forgiven…It does not matter that there is no immediate transformation; you have made use of your God-power to erase the appearance and to establish Truth. Such an attitude invites only the best from other souls.”
-Myrtle Fillmore, How to Let God Help You, pp 69-70
“At that point Peter got up the nerve to ask, “Master, how many times do I forgive a brother or sister who hurts me? Seven?” Jesus replied, “Seven! Hardly. Try seventy times seven.”
-Matthew 18:21-22 The Message Bible
Dr. Frederic Luskin’s Four Tactics to Begin Forgiveness
- Calm yourself down in the moment. “You have to counter-condition the stress response when it happens,” Dr. Luskin said.
- Shift how you think and talk about the source of your grudge. “Change your story from that of a victim to a more heroic story,” he said.
- Pay attention to the good things in your life to balance the harm.
- Remind yourself of one simple truth: Life doesn’t always turn out the way we want it to.
“Forgiveness is not always easy. At times, it feels more painful than the wound we suffered, to forgive the one that inflicted it. And yet, there is no peace without forgiveness.”
“Here is a mental treatment that is guaranteed to cure every ill that flesh is heir to: Sit for half and hour every night and mentally forgive everyone against whom you have any ill will or antipathy.”
-Unity’s Book of Silent Prayer, p. 16 “A Sure Remedy”